DON’T BE SELF-CENTERED. IT’S NOT GOOD TO BE SELF-CENTERED (IT’S NOT ONLY YOU THAT HAS GOOD OR BAD ISSUES)
Two words that people often use interchangeably are selfish and self-centered. However, there is a significant difference between the two. What exactly does it mean to be self-centered? The dictionary defines being self-centered as Tending to think only about yourself and not thinking about the needs or feelings of other people. Being self-centered is often viewed disapprovingly by society because a level of altruism is necessary for the survival of the human race.
On the other hand, a selfish person lacks consideration for others and is solely concerned with his own personal gain or pleasure. While being self-centered doesn’t mean that a person is necessarily evil, however being self-absorbed leads to isolation and getting ahead of others at all cost.
A self-centered person is not necessarily stingy or evil and may often offer help; however, they put their own opinion ahead of others, not bothered about the feelings of the person they may be trying to assist. A selfish person does not bother to offer help to people.
The effects of the self-centered philosophy of “me-first” are far-reaching indeed. Unfortunately, all of us are affected by the fruits it produces. In the workplace, self-centered people are often a pain in the neck to deal with as they often hush others down, believing their opinions to be superior. Surprisingly though, some career experts prescribe being self-centered as an important factor for career success. No wonder why many persons only look out for themselves. This reasoning is faulty and can erode societal values.
WHY BEING SELF-CENTERED CAN BE PROBLEMATIC
Some persons tend to become self-centered because of personal experiences in life such as; betrayal from a trusted friend or personal disappointments in life. Still, others become self-centered because they have certain talents or skills that make them feel superior to others. It is common with some people to distance themselves from their circle of friends when their ‘status’ in life improves, feeling that they no longer need people around them or they are too busy to be bothered by other people’s concerns.
Feeling that other people should not interfere with your opinions can lead to strained relationships and gradually widen the gap that existed between once close friends. True, we are all entitled to our personal opinions and rights, nevertheless showing consideration for others tends to strain relationships when we push too far.
Some marriages have been torn apart because one member became so engrossed with work rather than giving their mate the attention they deserve. No doubt putting our career ahead of our family may lead to disaster.
Are you facing overly demanding job pressures? Why not speak with others who have learned to strike a life-work balance in order to learn their stress management strategies rather than being pre-occupied with only your career. Others have learned to cope and so will you!